hate - the ugly word

why do you say that you hate me?
i don't understand.

some people use the phrase 'i hate you' as easily as they shit or dig their noses. i don't like it when people spit out these three words too comfortably. infact, ironically, i HATE it when people say that they hate others. its really not a nice thing to say, and needless to say, never a nice thing to hear - whether or not anyone has done the others wrong. it's a phrase that would eventually bring about much regret and it's sth that would leave a bigggggg, super-painful scar which could probably take a long~~ time to heal. it could even cause no-turning-back when a relationship has torn apart- maybe it wouldn't even bring a glimpse of hope of patching up the broken relationship or friendship if one/both should regret in the future. the word 'hate' is just too powerfully ugly. yikes. the worse thing is, i sometimes come across certain people who just spit out the words and then, pretend or shake it off as if the words were neverrrr spoken out. ahh and they think they are cool. [fake-asses].

i don't know, and i'm not an expert in "anger-management" haha, but those with overflowing rage or angst, or simply have temper, could perhaps resort to activities like 1) trying to explain themselves to the party who supposedly did them wrong in order to solve the misunderstanding, 2) eating lots of chocolates/ ice-creams/ sushi-deal whatever that pleases them, 3) going to karaok perhaps, where they can lock themselves behind the door and have a screeching stress-venting scream or two... or as many times as they want until the voice cracks and the karaok manager kicks them off the box. just a few suggestions? i'm aware that i am in no position to say whether or not hating someone is right or wrong, just like i have no say in the simplest thing like 'can one lie?'. but i still think that the three-words combo [I HATE YOU] is a sickeningly stupid. demeaning. hurting. useless thing to say.

especially when i didn't do ANYTHING wrong to you.


when i get mad at someone, i lock myself in my room and tear a whole stack of newspapers for half an hour. it kinda helps cos' the sound of tearing newspapers makes me feel relieved n good. sounds sadistic but it works lol :)